I’m learning self reliance.  I’m learning to be more trusting, to be more forgiving, to be more companionate, to be less critical.  I’m learning to stop and consider before I speak or take action.  Prior to the last few months I didn’t give a lot of thought to such things.  I was on autopilot from childhood.   At 84, I don’t want to live on autopilot.  I have family and friends who look to me for guidance-the kind that doesn’t tell them what to do.  Still learning, still practicing.